Q:hi i really want to be good at pleasuring my partners but when it comes to vaginas i find that it's really hard for me to deal with the taste and smell and ik they're not supposed to smell like roses but is there a way i can get used to it or anything i can do? ty
Just as a reminder - Bonebox is a recent partner to Silkbox, and they’re my two friends - I trust them to give good advice and if you need a question, they’re always open as well!
It’s called ‘vulva’, stupid. If sniffing vulvas isn’t your fetish, or even hobby, then forget about your “partners” and find just one partner you are physiologically compatible with. Since all people are divided into different types, physiologically, then you ain’t gonna like natural scents of women who do not belong to your type. Just smell your partner’s neck, head and shoulders, if it drives you crazy, quite literally, then you’ve found her. Otherwise go look for someone else, because no amount of her hygiene, diet and what not, will make you love her and her natural tastes and scents.
The story of Napoleon and Josephine would be quite apropos in here.
Q:Umm...I feel embarassed because of my lips. (Between my hips of course)?and they are long and it doesnt look like normal pussy lips please help me....
First of all, this might be a little weird, but I’m gonna ask - how many other vaginas have you seen? I mean, I might be reaching here, but I think that the Number One Problem with many countries/cultures (particularly western ones…) is their unhealthy censorship of bodies.
I’ve lived in America for a long time, and the one thing I noticed that was starkly standing out to me was how few times they willingly displayed the naked body. Even among friends, it was something that was viewed as shameful. Bodies are normal. ALL BODIES ARE NORMAL. Sure, some look different. Doesn’t make them ‘wrong’ though. The more bodies you see in your lifetime, the more you realize that they’re NOTHING like what the media and porn shows us.
So that’s my number-one checklist question: Are you comparing yourself to other real-life people, or to porn stars? Cos let me tell ya… porn stars are not a good comparison point.
Second checklist question is - are your lips bothering you in some way? Are they causing you pain, physically? Are they swollen, or irritated? Are they giving off a bad smell?
If the answer is no, there’s a 99% chance that your body is perfect the way it is. It’s called natural variation. Don’t subject yourself to unrealistic standards. You’re the product of millenea of evolutionary success. You’re meant for greater things. Your lips will not stop you from achieving great things. They will not stop you from having great sex.
These are just a few variations that a vagina can take!
In fact, if you DON’T have a vagina, you might as well look at them anyway! There’s nothing scary about them, and it’s good to stop spreading and perpetuation the stereotypes that all of them are supposed to look like teeny tiny newborn baby’s vaginas. That ain’t what happens, folks.
And this… “You’re the product of millenea of evolutionary success.“
LOL
Really? Evolutionary success? In comparison to whom? Better go take a
look at other members of our ape family, i.e. bonobos. You’ll be greatly
SURPRISED! Bonobos live in a peaceful and matriarchal society, can you
imagine that? Now how about humans with their huge brains? Evolutionary
success, indeed.
“You’re meant for greater things. Your lips will not stop you from achieving great things.“
Greater
things? Like what? What exactly will your lips not stop you from
achieving? And how are these great things connected with your lips?
“They will not stop you from having great sex.”
All this is highly individual, and dependent on your physiology, and physiology of your lips in particular.
As for teeny tiny, Emma from largelabiaproject says that about 50% of women have protruding labia minora. Granted, 50% is not “all of them” as you say, but neither it is a minority. 50% actually is half of all women on Earth.So the only question is which half do you want to be in, and what can you do for achieving this great thing.
Alright this person submitted five separate posts that were all over the place and confusing so I’m rewriting it for clarification. Hope you don’t mind, anonymous.
Here it goes: So my freshman year, my sorority made my pledge class compete in what they called “The Slut Olympics”. They made us each pay $100 to add to the pool that the winning team would get. We broke up into teams of 3 (there were about 30 of us in our pledge class, so like 10 teams) and we had to do a scavenger hunt-style competition where we had to run around taking pics of us doing all sorts of slutty things. Each thing had to be performed on a separate guy, no duplicates. The team that did the most acts by 2 am won the money: $3000 to split.
These were some of the acts:
1. Making out with a random guy
2. Making out with each other
3. Taking A Shot off A Guy’s Abs
4. Flashing Your Tits In Public
5. Taking a shower with a random guy
6. Holding a guy’s dick in your hand
7. Giving a guy a blowjob outdoors (Double Points)
8. Doggy (Double Points)
9. 69 (Double Points)
10. Facial (Double Points)
11. Eiffel Tower (5x Points)
12. Anal (10x Points)
My team sucked because one girl was a virgin and the other had a boyfriend so they didn’t want to do much. The virgin did #1, #2, #3, and #5 (proud of you for #5!). The girl with the BF did #2 (with the virgin) #4, #6 (not her BF’s dick) and #8 (she broke the rules and did it with her BF… and we didn’t tell him about #6 lol). I was a hero and did #7, #9, and #10. Couldn’t find 2 guys for #11 and I’m not doing anal, sorry.
We ended up coming in 2nd place because some slut on another team did #8, #9, #10, #11, and #12 (i.e. hooked up with 8 people. Goodness Gracious girl). During an awards ceremony at the end of the year, they played a slideshow of all the photos. Wicked embarrassing. The Virgin practically cried when they showed the photo of her naked in the shower with another guy.
Your team sucked but you definitely won in the category of being the most stupid team. Just look at 12. Anal (10x Points), if you don’t do it then all the other “slutty things“ are worthless, and chances are you will lose if anyone out of 27 other “participants” did it. Other slutty teams figured this out and silently refused to “participate”, your slutty team obviously didn’t. As for “some slut on another team”, well, it should not be that hard to ask some male friend of yours to stick it in your pooper for a second or two, and snap a picture. We are talking about $3000 in here, you know.
And since we are on this oh so fashionable nowadays topic “Anal”, there are girls who really really love it and prefer to have anal sex instead of PIV. Everybody is different in the body department, in particular what concerns sex. So this is another reason why your team most certainly would have lost in this “competition”.
I bet it was a lot of fun for all of you, though. You see, being a slut isn’t the cause why this planet is so screwed up, but being stupid is.
Q:I've had sex with one person and he made me feel super comfortable with my skin tag and my darker labia. but we recently broke up and I feel like no one else will appreciate and love me.
Anonymous
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That’s not logical. Why would you think other people would be different to your old boyfriend?
Well, why do people poke fun at someone’s funny looking nose, or ears, or lips, or neck, or (pick your favorite part of the body)…? And it’s not only the men who do it, it’s the women who also do it. But why? They are evil, or jealous, or what? You keep saying that such evil people are in the minority(you wish), but the sheer number of all those “beef curtains” asks on your blog easily disproves your logic. These are your own words:
They are a tiny minority of morons. Just tune them out, and don’t hang around people who say such hurtful things.
And you keep saying this, time and again, while people keep coming en masse to your blog and disprove you, time and again. That’s the simple statistics, the simple math, that says that it is you who’s not logical.
Moreover, the most honest opinions that you can ever get are almost always from people you have no relationships with. That’s when the people are the most open and simply speak how they truly think and feel. But in human relationships, almost everything is based on lies, on unspoken words, as not to hurt the feelings of the other, until the moment you get into a fight and then the truth can finally see the light.
The idea that large labia don’t exist in
pornography comes up all the time, and this perception of
porn continues influence how some people with vaginas feel about their own perfectly normal larger labia. Many people only seem to watch porn that features performers and models with tiny, tucked in labia minora. I must admit that years ago when I first started this blog I thought that porn was the largely responsible when it came to negative perceptions of larger labia. But after a few minutes of thinking about what I had actually seen when looking at porn, I very quickly came to realise that I had seen labia and vulvas of all shapes and sizes…
The idea that large labia don’t exist in
pornography comes up all the time,
WHY it comes up all the time?
and this perception of
porn continues influence how some people with vaginas feel about their own perfectly normal larger labia.
WHY do we have this perception of porn, this quite mythical perception of porn? The porn at all times was more or less the same, in 70′s, in 80′s, in 90′s, and now. All sizes have been always present in porn movies at all times. Go take a look at old porn movies.
So, again, who is the scapegoat now, Emma? Who do you and other women blame now for your insecurities? Why do you and other women still have these insecurities? The porn was and is never the cause for your insecurities as we all know now. Let’s get to the mysteries of life on Earth and see how deep the rabbit hole goes.
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